Good day at the beach with old friends I haven’t seen in a while and boyfriend <3
i absolutely adore this
"Forget relationships and learn how to relate. Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted. That’s what destroys all love affairs. The woman thinks she knows the man, the man thinks he knows the woman. Nobody knows either. It is impossible to know the other, the other remains a mystery. And to take the other for granted is insulting, disrespectful."
— Osho (via nirvikalpa)
1. The world is trying to keep you stupid. From bank fees to interest rates to miracle diets, people who are not educated are easier to get money from and easier to lead. Educate yourself as much as possible for wealth, independence, and happiness.
2. Do not have faith in…
"On your way to becoming a religious person, don’t become a crappy human being."
— Sheikh Omar Suleiman (via maham-a)
This is a bridge in Paris. You hang locks on it with the name of you & your boyfriend/girlfriend/best-friend then throw the key into the river. So even though the friend/relationship may end, you can’t remove the lock. It stays there forever, as relevance to someone once a part of your life.
So many ways to love.
You know what I’ve been thinking about lately? The words “I love you”.
What does love even mean? I’m surprised that “I love you” is the only sentence in the English language to express… well, love. But what kind of love, exactly? There are different kinds of love… right?
Let’s take a look at the dictionary definition.
love [luhv] noun, verb, loved, lov·ing.
noun: 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, asfor a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
Hm. This goes on to list love as a “verb” by basically tweaking the sentences above and making them actions. That leads to the question, is love a noun/concept, or a verb/action? I think it just goes hand in hand. Love is a concept that entails different actions. But anyways, actions speak louder than words, but that’s something totally different. This definition definitely hits the affection/attachment/passionate aspects of love but I still feel as if it doesn’t truly DEFINE love, and it misses out on types and aspects of love.
After reading around a little bit, I’ve come up with what I think are six significant types of love. When it comes to relationships.
Security Love. This is the love that you NEED. It’s the nurture, comfort, care, that we are supposed to have from the moment we’re born, and that if we’re lucky, we get from that moment onwards. It’s “parental” love, the love you should have for your kids, and the love you get from some grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings. The fact that someone cares for your well being, takes care of you when you’re sick, wants to protect you from harmsway, all stems from this sort of love. This love is why you feel secure, and safe in this overwhelming world.
Friendship Love. This is the love you share with your best friends, your true friends. The people you genuinely enjoy spending time with. Its formed when you share a mutual trust with someone else. You can tell them your secrets, knowing they’ll keep them, and look to them for support. This love is very comfortable and very open. You’re able to be your true self in front of these people that you share this love with.
Romantic Love. This is what most people think of when they hear the word “love”. This is a passionate, lustful love that is usually shared in the beginnings of relationship. The butterflies in your stomach kind of love. It entails attraction, both physically and hopefully intellectually, though not always. You usually experience this multiple times during your life. It’s actually the shallowest kind of love at first, ironically, really fragile and easily broken. but hopefully it leads to another type of love.
Unconditional Love. Also known as selfless love in my book. This is the forever kind of love that you hopefully share one day with your husband or wife. You could say its the love a mother has for her child. It’s the “I’d do ANYTHING for you” kind of love. You put their interests before yours. It’s really an unbreakable sort of bond. Their happiness is your number one priority, and yours is theirs, which ends up working out really nicely. There are no CONDITIONS to your love. You love not only the good qualities, but all the flaws as well. You love everything about them, inside and out. It’s the most powerful type of love, love with no limitations. I feel like this kind of love entails security and friendship love too, and the romantic love when appropriate too.
Self Love. Honestly, all of the above doesn’t really mean anything if you don’t have this kind of love in your life. Self love. It grows when you finally learn to be not only comfortable with yourself, but to EMBRACE your self, and all your flaws. When you’re able to say to yourself, “I am proud of the person that I am”. This is one of the hardest types of love to achieve. You have to go through a lot of failure to get to finally get to this point, but I can’t wait till I get here.
There’s a lot of possible overlap here, and maybe a few aspects I missed out on. But I just wanted to write.
Anyways, if you’re lucky, you get to experience all these kind of loves throughout your life time. If you’re really lucky, you’ll experience them all at once. That’s when I know I’ll truly be happy.
